Posts from ‘September, 2009’

Not only do we have a child that has been alienated, we are also a blended family.  Before my partner and I got together, we were both married and divorced,  he has two sons from that marriage and I had a daughter and a son from my first marriage and Thomas from my second marriage. [...]

I am very aware that our children use new media, my space, beeboo and other ways of messaging.  As someone who believes that we are losing the ability to communicate face to face, using these once removed ways of having relationships doesn’t always sit well.  I am on facebook though and do have contact with [...]

I had a call from Thomas’s school today.  The woman, Lorraine, is Head of Pastoral Care.  I am pleased and amazed to find that there is a role in schools and that someone is designated to take care of children’s pastoral needs. I couldn’t help but wonder if children feel safe enough to use this [...]

I have now spoken to Thomas’s school twice and am getting the run around.  I am still waiting for them to call me back.  This is what usually happens.  I know they have 1000 or so kids to deal with and it’s the beginning of a new school year so I will just have to [...]

Thinking about some of the comments this blog has received, the one thing that stands out is how driven we all are when it comes to our absent children, so much energy put out into the world to try and deal with our loss, to find some comfort, to try and feel better.  I  go [...]

I realised that I am becoming practised now at calling people and telling them about our situation.  Perhaps it is more that I am ready for their responses these days. I spoke to the headmaster’s PA and told her that I was Thomas’s mum, that their was a contact order in place and that his [...]

I am tired. I’m not sleeping very well and the extra strain of not being in touch with Thomas is taking it’s toll. Thomas started his secondary school today, my thoughts have been with him all day, kept wondering what he would look like in his uniform, if he had a good breakfast and whether [...]

It is some times really hard to keep going, keep being positive.   I am split between leaving this situation alone, to let go and let, well a higher power.  But today I have been thinking what if I do not keep on ‘fighting’ for the right to see my son, can I live with [...]