Over the years, I have often and not proudly, observed in myself, a desire to inflict the same pain I am feeling around Thomas back onto my ex because I have felt so angry and aggrieved by what he has done to us. I saw my ex as creating the cause of my anger, by [...]
Posts from ‘February, 2011’
Alienation – Some Healing
Over the years of not having Thomas with me, I have wondered over and over again how he felt about me. I suppose I focused on my feelings more. These feelings were driving me to try and find/win/get/court order him back to me. My hope was always that someone (social workers, CAFCASS, schools) would see [...]
Alienation and name changing
One of the symptoms of Alienation is for the alienating parent to change the child’s name, it is one of the most final ways of rejecting and ridding any trace of the alienated parent. Our names carry with them a whole wealth of information, historical and hereditary and emotional. It is our label, love or [...]
Parental Alienation – Contact for Alienating Parent to see his son
Since Thomas was returned to me on 16th July 2010, he has seen his father just once, this has been his father’s choice. I find this so difficult to get my head around. After withholding T from me for so long, now he does not want to see his son ? Prior to T’s return [...]
Parental Alienation in court, in front of the judge
There is a sociologist who says that we play different roles as if we are on a stage all the time, interacting with say, a neighbour differently to your boss. We show/tell people what we want them to know about us. I saw this theory in action on Monday in court. When I arrived 45 [...]
