Posts from ‘March, 2011’

Yesterday Thomas came home from school in a great mood.  When he has had a good day, he comes home brimming with happiness and it’s wonderful to hear the story of the highs and lows of his day spilling out.  T has even said on a few occasions now that he has had an excellent [...]

Thomas has always been a bit of an ‘issue’ between me and S my partner.  I do not write this because I am putting S down but rather because he finds it difficult and he is not alone, I find it hard that he finds it hard, I want them to get on.  I want [...]

We live in a small village on the edge of Devon and Cornwall and from our doorstep, we can see the moors, just.  The fields behind our house are full of lambs each year and this year is no exception, there lots of little gorgeous black curly lambs just bounding around and are full of [...]

Yesterday we had our long awaited appointment with CAMHS, Child and Adult Mental Health Services.  T was not keen to go and is unhappy when he thinks he has to talk about how things are, he has been groomed not to give information to people by his dad.  I think he thought that if he [...]

I had a really hard day yesterday.  T has some difficult behaviour (and I know, it is not surprising) I found it so hard to stay calm yesterday and, in the end, I blew my top with T.  He was being so rude and talking to me like I was a slave (he has a [...]

“And a women who held a babe against her breast said, Speak to us of Children and he said: Your children are not your children.  They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.  They come through you but not from you.  And though they are with you yet they belong not to [...]

I have had a hard day with Thomas.  Since he saw his dad, his behaviour has been a difficult for me to manage at times.  I knew that there would be some fall out after the contact and thought about how I may respond to it but in the actual moment it feels hard to [...]

I woke this morning with my thoughts on Japan, how blessed I am to only have T’s contact visit with his dad to worry about.  I silently said a prayer for all the people who did not survive and for all the people who will never see them again.  I am truly grateful for my [...]

As part of our ongoing court case, the courts want to see how contact goes with T and his dad, and it is so strange to arrive at this place.  T’s dad has only seen T once since August 2010.  This is NOT because we have not welcomed it, it is entirely his father’s own [...]

Going back nearly 10 years ago, once I discovered that what was happening to us had a name, Parental Alienation, I decided to look for some help.  The nearest thing I found to give me some better understanding was a PA group in Canada, an organisation that had been set up by professionals who recognised [...]