Pam Richardson’s book on parental alienation is a must-read
I came across this book on Amazon whilst researching for other books on PA, it is by Pamela Richardson a mother who went through PA with tragic consequences. Although I am only a quarter of the way through, there are so many similarities and it’s overwhelming. I would recommend anyone going/having gone through PA to read this book. You will know you are not alone, that you are NOT going mad and it is not just what you are doing/not doing as a parent.
The manipulation of a young mind and in my case, my own flimsy belief in myself work perfectly in the hands of an obsessed father. It is amazing to read in this book some of the things that have also happened to me, like the schools thinking my son was ok and although a bit behind with school work, he would catch up. That my son only behaved badly with me and therefore it was something I must be doing was difficult to understand, I was always trying to rationalise it by saying that any child that was split between both parents would be angry with their situation, what is difficult is trying to figure out what is ‘usual’ in divorce/tough custody battles. I actually came across PA when I was looking at Oppositional Defiance Disorder because I thought there had to be something out there to help me understand my son and his behaviour. PA started to help me make sense of the madness I felt I was in.
My aim in writing this blog is to try and help deal with the feelings that I have experienced, there is so little help out there, counselling is an option but it is expensive and not enough people are qualified to deal with PA. What do you do with the anger, rage, the invisibility, the love, the pain, the denial and all the other feelings ? Learning to live with PA is a lifetimes’ work.