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T is a month or so off being 13.  For the past year, I have been so grateful to have him back in my life.  Inevitably along with T’s return comes some problems and difficulties.  I have had the wonderful and sometimes difficult but always a learning and growing experience of bringing up 2 other [...]

There have always been some difficulties for T with my partners children.  I believe that some of these differences were stirred up by T’s dad from the very beginning of our relationship over 8 years ago. I imagine that for most of us in a step situation there is always some jealousy and insecurity, it [...]

I am writing a book on my experiences around T and what happened to us.  I am very interested in how other people, social services, legal people, CAFCASS, friends and family reacted to you when they first understood you were not being allowed contact or communication with your child.  Were you believed about what was [...]

I am still glowing after court last week.  It is such a good feeling to have a piece of paper that states residence in my favour and I know I am luckier than most who have suffered at the hands of the other parent.  I am grateful and I still save a moment at the [...]

I have been contacted by a documentary maker who wants to make a program about Mum’s who leave their children.  I believe she will handle this matter with the utmost sensitivity and you will not have to do anything you do not feel comfortable with. If you are a Mum who left her children or [...]

I didn’t sleep for 2 nights before court.  I got up at 6am on Friday and felt that lagged feeling of not enough sleep and too much stress, cortisol drenched and ragged.  My first surprise was that my partner was going to come with me .  He works in London most of the week and [...]

With court just 2 days away I am loathe to write anything about what is happening but the final court hearing and is now not going to be the final.  My ex is now contesting residence and wants T to come back and live with him.  He decided this only a few days ago after [...]

In a perfect (!) world, after divorce or separation, a child needs a home, needs both parents and most of all needs to know that both parents love that child no matter what has gone on between the parents.  What my child got in this situation was more than 2 homes, more than 2 parents [...]

I am gob smacked!  I received a letter from my solicitor today, saying T’s dad wants to contest residence.  Our final hearing  is on 10th June 2011.  I do not believe he has any chance after all he has done to T but it just shows how much denial he is living in.  More soon.

We had the 3rd contact session on Saturday.  As is becoming usual, T was a bit anxious.  I talked to him on the way about the things dad needed to do to maintain contact.  I always worry about how much information I should give T and also work hard on carefully wording what I say [...]