I was in a relationship with a domineering control freak, having sustained many years of mental,emotional and psychological abuse, I could take no more. It is difficult for me to put into words the full story of what I have been through for a number of reason, firstly, there are no words for the torment and torture that has been inflicted upon me, secondly, I would then be forced to relive what can only be described as a living hell,lastly, I don’t think anyone would really ever believe that what I have been subjected to could be possible.
In a nutshell, following an acrimonious divorce, I was hounded, stalked,pestered and terrorized constantly. When he realised that he was no longer able to control me, he started using every weapon available, the last being the children, as he always knew we had been incredibly close. The children were informed they didn’t need to listen to me, that they could live with him and do whatever they wished to do, this was only the tip of the iceberg. His new wife (interestingly, who trained as a nanny, carefully chosen by him), became the perfect accomplice in what can only be described as a sick game of chess. I ended up backwards and forwards to the police, courts, running up legal fees unimaginable, and my hands were tied. He was able to throw money at the legal system, and played an outstanding performance as himself the victim, when the truth was he was and still remains the perpetrator of hideous crimes, against his own children.
The courts have insisted time after time, that my children must and need to see me, and yet every time, I have called to make arrangements,these have been changed at the eleventh hour, they are out, they don’t want to speak, I could go on and on. I have nearly had a breakdown over the trauma.
I am curious to know how another woman who knows nothing about me, chose to be so downright spiteful. Does she not realise, he is very capable of doing this to her? It is now 5 years since I have seen or heard from my children, they have eradicated me from their lives under the influence of my ex husband.
I have lost countless so called “friends” as a result of his campaign of lies. I worry that I have lost my children forever and indeed any potential grandchildren will also be kept from me as well.
Story submitted by JK